— Charles Kingsley (via thatkindofwoman)
Chuck Palahniuk, Invisible Monsters (via dulcetdecember)
I highly recommend Invisible Monsters.
Women’s closets are often mocked as a form of self-indulgence, shop-a-holicism, or narcissism. But this isn’t fair. Instead, if a woman is class-privileged enough, they reflect an (often unarticulated) understanding of just how complicated the rules are. If they’re not class-privileged enough, they can’t follow the rules and are punished for being, for example, “trashy” or “unprofessional.” It’s a difficult job that we impose on women and we’re all too often damned-if-we-do and damned-if-we-don’t."
Lisa Wade (via thefemcritique)
Yep, I have clothes I only wear for job interviews & meetings. I don’t even like them, but I know I need them to get ahead in my career.
Never really thought about this until I started buying clothes to wear to court. Then I added some shoes to make those court clothes good for nights out, and other shoes to make my casual-but-not-too-casual clothes work appropriate. And then I bought stuff (shoes and accessories) to make my court clothes double as slightly-flirty nights out clothes. (Because my nights out aren’t all that provocative, or super flirty, anyway.) And then I’m staring into my closet like, …Where the hell did all this shit come from?! Here’s the answer.
Also the reason why women will look at what looks like a closet full of stuff and say “there’s nothing here for me to wear”. They really do mean it; there’s nothing there that they can wear that will count as “suitable for the occasion”.
Not to mention that most women of size that I know, myself included, are constantly fluctuating in size and shape. So even though I have $200 worth of clothes from my job last summer, my hips are wider/waist is narrower/breasts are smaller and a lot of it no longer fits in a way that’s professionally acceptable
and then men wanna shit all over women for shopping or owning a ton of shoes
And like the article implies, women are hella judged if we dress “inappropriately” for the occasion.
And then there are totally random occasions that require a kind of outfit you wouldn’t otherwise have—I see sororities on my campus all the time doing their chapter meetings or whathaveyou, and the rule will be like, “everyone wears a white dress.” Well this means that some girls are in nice, cutesy sundresses you’d happily wear to church or baccalaureate mass, but others are like, “Shit, my only white dress is this semi-sheer backless mini thing I got for spring break,” and they look out of place, even in the same color as everyone else, and probably feel self conscious and considered sluttier, because of arbitrary fashion rules they didn’t necessarily know they’d need to plan for. I mean, who knows they’ll need six white dresses when they move to college? Or multiple black dresses when they get a job?
And then sometimes even when you’re doing everything appropriately, your circumstances will change and you’ll have no clothes again! Like one semester you might have a leery student in your classroom, so you feel uncomfortable wearing anything cut to below your collarbone, even if all those tops are actually appropriate most terms, or pants that are too fitted, or or or. And if you want to bike to work? It’s a disaster to dress professionally as a woman and be able to bike or walk.
— Dash and Lily’s Book of Dares by Rachel Cohn and David Levithan (via thatkindofwoman)